What is Neurodiverse Affair Recovery?

Neurodiverse Affair Recovery is a therapy program built from the ground up for couples where Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, or other neurodivergent traits are part of the mix.

 

Traditional affair-repair models assume neurotypical communication and emotion regulation; ours starts with your wiring and translates repair tools so both partners feel seen and understood.

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How is your approach different from “regular” affair-recovery?

We zero-in on two factors at once: the neurodiverse dynamic (missed signals, sensory overload, literal language, masking, etc.) and the usual life stressors that fuel betrayal.

 

Tools include intent-vs-impact “translation,” Neurodiverse-friendly trust-building exercises, and shame-free intimacy work that actually lands with literal or fast-thinking brains.

 

Who do you work with?

Any couple dealing with infidelity where one or both partners identifies (or suspects) Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, or related profiles. 

 

 

Are neurodiverse individuals more susceptible to affairs?

Neurodiversity doesn’t “cause” infidelity, but some common neurodivergent traits can make certain sexual or relational pitfalls more tempting:
 

Quick, low-effort relief. Porn or anonymous hookups offer instant gratification without the social decoding, sensory overwhelm, or emotional labor that healthy intimacy often requires.
 

Chronic loneliness. Difficulty reading social cues or sustaining conversation can leave someone feeling isolated; compulsive sexual behavior can become a substitute for connection.
 

Anxiety self-soothing. Repetitive or obsessive thinking (e.g., OCD-type rumination) can drive a person to use sexual activity as an anxiety-dampening routine.
 

Screen-time habits. Heavy reliance on devices—whether to manage overwhelm or stick to predictable routines—raises exposure to online sexual content and makes acting out easier.
 

Early or exploitative exposure. Many autistic or ADHD individuals report first encountering pornography before age 12, experiencing molestation, or being manipulated due to social naïveté—factors that can shape later compulsive patterns.
 

These vulnerabilities are risk factors, not destiny. With the right support—education, tailored therapy, and clear communication—neurodiverse partners can build satisfying, faithful relationships.

 

What is the 7-Step Affair Recovery Roadmap?

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1. CRISIS MANAGEMENT – stabilize safety, set sensory-aware boundaries.
    

2. WHAT - Full Therapeutic Disclosure – paced, written timelines to avoid “information leaks.”
    

3. WHY - Making Meaning – unpack root causes without pathologizing ND traits.
    

4. EMPATHY – translate emotions across different wiring.
    

5. OWN – 100 % responsibility, concrete apologies.
    

6. CHANGE – relapse-prevention plan & weekly ND-friendly check-ins.
    

7. COMMIT – decide if you do or do not want to now fully commit to the relationship.
   
    

Who will be my therapist, and what if the fit feels off?

All clinicians are neuro-informed specialists dual-trained in both affair-repair and ND dynamics. If the first match isn’t your vibe, just let us know—we’ll keep working until you land with someone who clicks.

 

Do you offer a free consultation?

Yes. After you complete the contact form we’ll match you with a therapist and you can book a 15–20 minute complimentary Zoom or phone consult to test the fit before committing.

 

How much do sessions cost?

Session fees range $150 – $400 per 50-minute appointment, based on your clinician’s training and experience.

 

Do you take insurance or HSAs/FSAs?

We’re insurance-friendly but out-of-network. You pay at the time of service; we supply a Superbill you can submit for possible reimbursement. HSA/FSA cards are welcome. We do not bill insurers directly.

 

I’m outside California—can we still work together?

Absolutely. Coaching (not therapy) is available worldwide for individuals or couples. Coaching is self-pay and typically not insurance-reimbursable.

 

How do we get started?

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1. Fill out our confidential contact form.

2. Within 24 hours you’ll receive a therapist recommendation, fee info, and next-step instructions.

3. Schedule your complimentary consult or jump straight into sessions.
   
    

What if we need other services?

Neurodiverse Affair Recovery is part of the New Path Family of Therapy Centers, offering assessment, individual therapy, and specialized coaching across multiple ND-focused programs.
 

Still have questions?

Reach out to Cassie Clayton, our Client Care Coordinator. You can see her contact information below.