Alyssa Bayus

I spent more than twenty years in a marriage that became a deep teacher—showing me so much about attachment, conflict, boundaries, and the tender truth that real change only lasts when both people are willing to look inward and try new patterns together.
 

I also know infidelity from the inside. I have experienced betrayal in my own marriage and walked through the confusion, heartbreak, and disorientation that follow. I understand the hypervigilance, the sudden triggers, the waves of grief, and the questions about whether trust can ever be rebuilt—or whether it’s wiser to start again.
 

And when that marriage ended, the divorce became its own initiation. I had to start again—slowly, honestly, and with a courage I didn’t know I had.
 

That experience didn’t harden me; it expanded me. It taught me that rebuilding is possible, that beginning again can be an act of wisdom, and that life after loss can be deeply alive and meaningful.
 

Those years softened and steadied me. They made me practical, grounded, and clear about what truly helps people grow and stay connected—and what just creates more pressure and guilt without real transformation.
 

I don’t come into the room as someone judging your relationship from the outside; I come in as someone who knows how complicated love, betrayal, and recovery can get on the inside.